Thursday, January 6, 2011
Is It Just Me?
Hullo again! If anybody reads my blogs, my speech today went better than usual. I got to hold a baby today! She was so cute! She babbled and squealed and everything! I spent a little more time with Hayden than usual today... which I`m not so sure I should have done. It kindof made me feel ignored. We were in the library and he was talking to one of his buddies (which I don`t mind at all about) and they were having a great time. He was sitting next to the chair I was in and I leaned back and started playing on my phone while he talked to his friend. He asked me to sit next to him so I did. He put his arm around me and kissed me and began talking again. I felt a bit closer to him then. I started listening to their conversation about making Hayden`s friend sick and how funny it was (just cuz of the face he makes XD). At one point there was a small pause so I tried to say something and in the middle of my sentence they started talking again. Well, I guess that`s OK. He took his arm out from around me and leaned forward to demonstrate something and I watched. It was quite funny actually. Well, they continued talking then when I wanted to say something regarding the conversation, Hayden began talking over me even though he heard me talking. I looked at him and it was like he didn`t even recognize I was there. I put the theory to the test and got up to walk away. I told the girl siting next to Hayden`s friend, "Watch him not even notice." And as I suspected, he didn't notice until I was a good distance away, then he just looked at me for a split second (could have been someone around me he was looking at. Not sure.) then turned back around. I stayed away for the rest of the period and came back to get my stuff when the bell rang. He noticed I was gone at some point cuz he had my bags in his hand. He handed them to me then started walking out with the friend he was talking to and another friend. If they hadn't parted with him walking out the door he wouldn't have noticed that he had left me behind. Walking to class he quickly kissed me, told me he loved me, and walked off. Is he mad at me or is this just the typical man? It's kindof worrying me.
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Thank you for the thoughtful comment on my blog... I will try to return the favor best I can...
ReplyDeleteSometimes guys are not quite sensitive enough to these situations as we ought to be.
In my book, the best thing is to be honest and straightforward about your feelings... If you're feeling ignored, say it!
But keep in mind, his needs (having good relationships with his friends) are as important as yours (not being ignored). Relationships are a give and take, no?
In a situation where you are feeling like a third wheel, rather than sticking around and feeling neglected, I suggest you instead move on and find something that actively occupies you as well, like a conversation with another friend. It'll get your mind off the details, make you happier, and make you seem busier, thus increasing your perceived value among others... but that's a whole other blogworthy topic.
OK, best of luck!
Thanks a bunch Colin. I understand that he has friends and I know they matter to him just as much to him as me. As a matter of fact the other day he was planning on ditching his friend for a date with me but he had already planned the time with his friend so I told him "Hey babe ever heard of the saying 'Bros over Hos?" He gave me a weird face "Go have fun with your friend and we can spend time with each other some other time." We did today. We spent all day today in the library together talking with our friend EBay. Today was supposed to be a make-up day for semester tests and i didnt have any to make up and he had to make up his test 5th period (which he made a 100 on! XD I'm so proud of him!). He had after-school Drama practice so I wasn't able to tell him I loved him or Goodbye. Kindof feel bad about it.
ReplyDeleteAlso when I was trying to talk it had to do with what they were saying I wasn't trying to steal his attention or anything. That'd be wrong. Well I hope you have a great day Colin! Bye bye!